No Bride Wants To Be Labeled "Bridezilla!"

Today I’m going to focus on the term “Bridezilla”. It has become a very popular phrase in the wedding industry in the last few of years. Why has this term become so popular??!! What does this mean exactly? And what can you do to stop your inner Bridezilla from rearing her ugly head?

Through some internet research, the term Bridezillas was coined in 1995. It's slang, but one of the official definitions is “a bride-to-be who focuses so much on the event that she becomes difficult and obnoxious.”

One of the more interesting and funny definitions I found was this one from Webster’s: Bridezilla\ bride-zil-a n 1 Horrific, bulging-eyed bride prone to screaming spells and spontaneous fits of hysterical rage. Bridezillas are known to drop blows over seating charts, get bug-eyed at the mere mention of carnations and view hurling champagne at their wedding planners as a form of hazing”.

So what is it with this term “Bridezilla?” Is it a case of a few brides ruining it for the many? Yes, they are out there, these so called Bridezillas. We’ve seen them through TV shows. But are the majority of brides out there really this way? Maybe these Bridezillas aren’t nice people to start with? Maybe they are control freaks in their “real” lives? Or are they like this naturally?

I’ve had clients that are so worried about being labeled a Bridezilla, that they go out of their way to make sure they are not!! They were nice people before planning the wedding, and they will be nice people after the wedding is over. Maybe this is not the case of the dreaded Bridezilla!!

Society and the media as a whole seem to love controversy and negative things. Why not focus on the positives and all the wonderful brides out there? (I don’t mean to exclude the grooms, but it is a “bride specific” term we are discussing).

I have 10+ years of experience as a certified wedding consultant with Dream Maker Wedding Consultants (http://www.dreammakerwed.com), and with that experience under my belt it makes me somewhat of an expert in dealing with brides.

I’ve been fortunate to work with more than 100 clients over the years and they have been really wonderful people. Warm, kind, appreciative, and caring. At first I thought it was the city I live in (Calgary, AB, Canada), but that is not the case. I also sell unique and beautiful Bouquet Jewels through my website (http://www.dreammakerwed.com/bouquet_jewels.html ), and have worked with amazing people from all over the world – places like New York, Australia, Italy, Britain, and Hawaii. They are quick to start conversations through e-mail, and genuinely show their appreciation for the things I do for them.

I often tell my clients not to forget what the day is about. It is about the marriage, and don’t let the small details take away from the bigger picture. If you plan ahead, have help along the way, then Bridzilla never needs to show up. And know that the day will be beautiful whether the flowers are in the right spot or not. You are getting married for a lifetime, and the wedding is just one day of that lifetime.